I knew that title would get your attention. After all, you’re a man! And we all want to get what we want don’t we? That desire is part of our human DNA.
Not that many years ago, I had arrived—I had gotten everything I wanted. Nice cars, big new house (with a pool!), great job, cash in the bank, a healthy 401k, a golf club membership, a son headed to private school, and a great looking wife to boot. And when that life I had always wanted came crashing down around me, I had to do a lot of soul searching.
In just a few short years, I lost it all. It was a devastating time for me. I found myself alone and more than $1,000,000 in debt…with no job. As you can imagine, I did a lot of soul searching. As I searched I found real treasure—a relationship with Jesus and a dependence on God’s Word—that radically changed my crumbled life.
Looking back now, after ten years of rebuilding, I realize that I got what I wanted, but I wanted a bunch of wrong things. Even as a Christian for most of my life, I simply didn’t know how to “get what I wanted.” Let me explain.
See if you recognize these words from Psalm 37:35: 
Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.
Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.
These verses describe a four-step process to getting what you want!
- Trust in the Lord. Do you really trust Him? No matter what?
- Do good. No matter where you are, are you willing to do “the next right thing?”
- Feed on His faithfulness. When you don’t see results, know He is always at work. He is faithful to fulfill His promises, no matter what you see.
- Delight yourself in the Lord. This mean to “consistently contemplate” Him. Take every spare moment to ask Him what He wants for your day. If He has anything to say to you. When you wake up, when you drive, whenever you can—delight.
Four steps to getting what you want—to watching Him place HIS desires in your heart! Not your foolish desires, but His loving, all-seeing, purposeful desire for your life. Then get busy adding action to your faith.
Commit your way to the Lord! In other words, align your decisions every day with His direction for your life, take one step at a time, and to quote a famous commercial, “Just do it.” Do the next right thing, then the next, then the next. As you walk that process out, you can trust also in Him, and know that He will bring His desires for your life to pass.
My life is a living testimony that God’s Word will not fail. Today I have a wife who is my best friend and partner, a son who loves God and loves me (I’m so proud of him I could cry), a debt-free house, a better golf game, and an opportunity to share God’s Word with men like you every day.
If God can change a man like me, with all my warts and failures, there’s hope for you. It’s always a process. But with a clear determination to do God’s will, God’s way, according to God’s Word, you really can get what you want.
Don’t wait for life to come crashing down around you like I did. Delight yourself—consistently contemplate—the Lord today and see what He has to say!







